While I was in my Birth Boot Camp doula training, there was a conversation about
different types of “doulas” that people might need. Things like a “dentist doula”, someone to come and hold your hand during dental procedures that inevitably cause anxiety. Or a “tattoo doula” for those that are scared that getting a tattoo will be too painful to bear. That got me to thinking. What kind of “life doula” have I had in my life? My answer…a deployment doula.
My husband, Tom, has been in the military for 17 years. Right now we are stationed at Robins AFB in Warner Robins, GA. We have loved being a military family and the military has been good to us. However, with all the good there are some hard truths. One of those hard truths is deployments. It is hard to have your spouse far away, often times in a war zone. He just came back from a deployment to Africa. This was the 5th and one of the hardest deployments.
I would never have survived if it had not been for my “deployments doulas”. My friends that walked through it with me. On the days that I didn’t think I could do it, Brandi would look at me and tell me how strong I am and that I could (and would) do it. Deb would listen to me cry and tell me she understood. Kelly and Kathy loved me in the most practical ways, being there when I couldn’t do everything that needed done. Rachel dropped everything and held my hand the day I had to put one of my dogs down and my heart was breaking.
That is what a doula is. Someone that comes along side you and walks with you, helping you in any way you need. They support you in your decisions, not judging you because it’s not the choice they would have made. They remind you that you are strong and amazing. A doula believes in you and doesn’t leave when things get hard. We all need a support system like that.
When it comes to pregnancy and birth, there is no one right way to have your baby. But you do need a support system. Someone to support you in your decisions, hear your fears and concerns, and empower you to be everything that you are. That is why I became a doula. Your birth story matters to me.
I am so grateful for my “life doulas”!