What You Don’t Know

I talk to a lot of moms, both pregnant and not.  That makes sense, right? I’m a doula.  Pregnancy, birth, and babies are my business.  I love it all and I love talking about it!  However, one of my favorites is talking to first time pregnant moms.  There is something about that first time.  It’s all new and exciting.  And scary!  I’ve heard lots of moms say they don’t even know what questions to ask.  They don’t even know where to begin.  And often their husbands feel the same.  They don’t know what they don’t know.

It’s never too early in your pregnancy to start thinking about what is best for you and your baby.  There are lots of ways to approach your pregnancy and birth.  And lots of information about all of them.  It can be very overwhelming.  There are some great resources out there.  Here are some of my favorites:

  1. Birth Boot Camp (they have an excellent online childbirth class!)
  2. Spinning Babies
  3. Dr. Sears
  4. Evidence Based Birth

When you start to educate yourself, then you will start to know what you want.  Not what your mom wants, or your care provider, but what you want.  Everyone loves to tell moms what they should do and how they should do it, but this is your choice and your family.  When you know your options and what is best for you, then your voice will start to come out.i-believe-in-your-bodys-ability-to-have-your-baby-and-in-your-ability-to-know-your-body

Another thing that is important is to build your support system.  These are the people that you turn to with your questions, concerns, and fears.  It doesn’t need to be more than just a few people.  Your partner,  your doula, your provider, or other moms.  They just need to be people you trust.

My job as a doula is not to tell you what you don’t know (although, I do have a lot of knowledge to share), but to help you find the answers you are looking for.  I will come beside you and your partner and walk this journey with you.  I trust the decisions you will make.  I trust you to know what is best for your family.  I believe in you!  We will talk about your fears and concerns. I will listen when you are having a hard day or are sick of being pregnant.  I will encourage you to listen to your body.  I will support you in any way you need.  Why? Because  I love moms, dads, babies, families.  And I know that every birth story matters.

Better Births = Better Comunities

One of my favorite things is hearing a mom tell me her birth story and knowing that she had a great experience.  I have two children and I know how much our births impact us.  But more often than I would like, a mom will tell me that her birth was not what she wanted it to be.  She felt alone, she wasn’t heard, or she did’t feel like she had enough support.  Sometimes the couple doesn’t know that they can have a voice in how their baby comes into the world.  Or maybe no one was there to help with breastfeeding. These stories are too common in our country.

So, how do we change birth stories?  How do we help moms to have the best births possible.

We start by helping women to educate themselves.  There are so many resources out there.  Childbirth education classes like Birth Boot Camp, Lamaze, the Bradley method, or the ones at the hospitals can be an excellent way for moms to decide what type of birth they want.  We have The Woman’s Nest, where women can find all sorts of support groups and classes.  And Facebook has tons of groups for all sorts of things pregnancy, birth, and baby related.

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Next, we let her know that she has choices.  Which doctor or midwife to see.  Where to give birth.  Who will be her pediatrician.  She can choose what is best for her family.  And when women do that, then things will start to change.  Like hospitals now offering tubs to labor in and encouraging skin to skin after delivery.  We have to demand that we get the care  we want and deserve.

Finally, we give our moms all the support they need.  This can be cooking meals or cleaning the house after the baby is born, watching her little ones while she is having her baby, or even just listening to her voice her emotions and fears.  All to often a mom just needs to know that she is not alone.

So, how does this effect our communities.  It’s simple.  When a mom has an amazing birth, she is able to  focus on her new baby and being a mom.  As a result, we have happier and healthier moms and babies.  That makes for a happier families.  And happy families make happy communities.  It’s the ripple effect.

As a doula, I strive to give the best care to all of my clients. I give them relational and emotional support, so that they never feel alone. I support them in their decisions.  I help them get any information that they need to make the best choices for their family.  I know that by doing this I am not only helping them, I am helping the middle Georgia community.  I know that each story matters.

A Place for All Women

Yesterday I had the pleasure of going to the  Mommy’s Milk Breastfeeding Circle.  It is held in The Woman’s Nest in Macon.  I had never been there and I was so happy with what I saw.  The middle Georgia area has needed a place like this for so long and I am thrilled that we now have one.

The Woman’ Nest is owned and run by Lindsey Kyte, CNM.   When I got there,  I was immediately amazed at how warm and inviting it is.  They have converted a little white house into a place that women can go and find support of any kind.  I was there for the breastfeeding support group, so there were little ones and babies everywhere.  It was a safe place for the moms, as well as their children.  The room was beautifully decorated.  It was designed to make everyone feel comfortable.  The meeting felt like a group of friends just getting together for a play date.  It was an honor to be surrounded by such amazing women.

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Lindsey is  warm and caring.  You can tell how passionate she is about reaching out to her community within moments of meeting her.  When asked about it, this is what she said,

“I strongly have a passion for women being supported by women at all stages in their life but especially during motherhood…. we need to feel loved, appreciated, lifted, worthy, and not judged because we are so critical and judgmental of ourselves and abilities as women….We are all fabulous and have a lot to share with the world and I want women to feel that and have a sisterhood that brings it out in them!”

This place is wonderful.  You will feel welcome the moment you step in the door.  Their goal is to provide support for women in all stages of motherhood.  Because of Lindsey’s love and passion, women in middle Georgia now have place to go to.  They have classes, retreats, and circles.  All there to help improve the lives of families in GA.  Because when you improve the lives of moms, you are improving the lives of those around them. That has a ripple effect.  It can only make our community stronger.

As a doula, I love families and am grateful for anything that helps them in their journey.  The Woman’s Nest does just that.  We all need a bit of help now and then and a safe place to find it.  Because our stories matter.  They matter to us and those around us.  They matter to Lindsey too.

Thank you, Lindsey, for giving the moms in our area the support they need.